Having lost family and friends to cancer and motor neurone disease in their mid-lives, I know how hard it can be to find the right words to say when you know they are dying. In the case of sudden death you don’t even get the chance – within 10 years of leaving school I had lost 5 classmates through car accidents, an asthma attack and a lethal mugging.
I fear that the art of letter writing is a dying pastime and in our increasingly digital world, records of communication may not be kept with such diligence. My treasured last written communication with my sister in law was a text message “You are a star!” but I lost it when I updated my phone.
Through this website I hope to encourage people to put pen to paper to create a tangible and tactile record of their thanks or admiration towards people who have made a positive impact in their lives on a regular basis, not just when they are old or dying. It is so easy to take our nearest and dearest for granted and often only when writing on a leaving card that we might acknowledge our gratitude, respect and admiration for a work colleague.
My other hope is that having a living eulogy box would encourage people to think about the way they conduct their lives and value the positive impact that can make to those around them. Seemingly small acts of kindness can make a huge impact to those in need. It is all too easy to get wrapped up in our own needs and ambitions and yet helping others is one of the best ways to make us feel good about ourselves and promote positive mental health.